When it comes to practising safe sex, nothing is more effective than condoms. Contraceptives such as the pill, intrauterine device (IUD) and progestogen implant do not stop STIs. Likewise, HIV prevention methods such as Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) and Post-Exposure Prophylaxis (PEP) do not prevent other STIs or pregnancy. Only condoms can do all of the above. And yet, according to recent studies, the rate of condom use is declining. New research published by CSIRO found that only 35% heterosexual men used a condom in their last sexual encounter. Only 47% of gay and bisexual men used condoms with their partners in 2016, compared to 68% in 2013.
Common excuses people make to justify not using condoms include: “It doesn’t feel as good,” “They don’t fit,” or “They ruin the mood.” Despite this, condoms can really be a lifesaver – so here are some tips to make them more pleasurable to use.
- Size matters
One of the biggest myths is that condoms are one size fits all. Condoms, like penises, come in all shapes and sizes. Experiment with different brands and types to find the one that works best for you.
- Practice makes perfect
Buy a pack of condoms and familiarise yourself with them before using them for the first time. Practice putting them on so you can do it quickly and effortlessly when you’re in the heat of the moment.
- Have fun
Find ways to put a condom on in a sensual and sultry way. Incorporate it into foreplay so it feels natural. If you ever find condoms rough or uncomfortable, a little lube will do the trick. A few drops on the outside of the condom will reduce friction and decrease the risk of breakage. You can also put a couple of drops inside to increase sensitivity for the wearer.
- Position yourself for pleasure
High-friction positions can increase the pressure and sensation you experience during intercourse. The same goes with different angles: a slight shift to the side can greatly increase your enjoyment while using condoms.
Using a condom shows your partner that you have a respectful attitude to sex. Experiment with different condoms and positions to create a fun, safe, and pleasurable experience for you and your partner.