Don’t know what to say? Nervous about coming out? Try these tips!
Start by telling your loved one that you have something you want to talk to them about that’s important to you.
Write out what you want to say. Read it a few times so you’re clear about what you want to include, or read it out to them if that might work best for you.
Choose a time to come out that has its own place and setting, free from distractions.
Consider questions that might come up. Also be prepared to answer other questions, even if they don’t directly relate to you.
Try role-playing the occasion with supportive friends/family.
For more tips about coming out, check out the info section of www.freedom.org.au
Having a friend, family member or teacher who can be there for you is a pretty amazing thing. Talking through your experiences and having someone who can stick up for you when needed makes any situation better. The support doesn’t always have to come from someone you know in person; there are heaps of online communities, blogs and videos out there that you can access from people who are going through the same sorts of experiences as you.
Keeping involved in your usual activities at school, uni and work when it’s safe to do so is important to ensure you stay on track. Maintaining your routine will also help to make sure you feel grounded in your life.
Taking the time to talk to the people in your life that matter to you about your identity and keeping conversations open is a really important part of coming out. Showing that your identity is a core part of you can help make others see it as an important part they need to accept.
You Don’t Need Permission to be Yourself
How others act doesn’t have to impact how you see yourself. Your sexuality or gender identity is an awesome part of who you are; show others that you’re the same person they’ve always loved, except now they know more about you.
Reach Out When Things Get Too Tough
You have the right to feel safe and supported no matter where you are. If things at school get tough, reach out to staff for support. If you need more advice or someone to talk to, reach out to one of the organisations. You’re never alone.
Some young people are rejected by the people they tell. This is a difficult situation to be in. Remember you are sharing an important part of yourself. If people choose to ignore this they are missing out on knowing all of who you are. Hold onto the fact that you are special. Reach out for support.
If your family do ask you to leave home please contact one of the services at the back of this book
Don’t hang around if their response is abusive. Leave as soon as possible and seek support with a supportive friend or family member, or phone the GLCS counselling line (08 9420 7201, 7-10pm weeknights) and talk it over. See the back of this book for services in your state.
If someone threatens you or is violent, get somewhere safe and call the Police on 131 444 or 000.